Those words often all connect. But it is possible to thrive and refuse to let life get you down. It isn't easy all the time, trust me, I know. Sometimes we have to force ourselves to press forward. In my opinion, it beats the alternative, though -- which is lying in bed crying and complaining. My latest via Divorced Moms.
Best wishes for finding a fabulous life no matter what!
When Life Hands You Lemons: 7 Ways To Combat Depression & Thrive
by Lizzy Smith
August 17, 2015
A few weeks ago, my daughters and I went on vacation to Florida. When we landed in Orlando, I rented a car and we did a road trip to Savannah, Georgia and Charleston, South Carolina. We also spent time in Jacksonville and Orlando.
What made the trip really amazing is that our best friends who live in California were also in Orlando at the same time we were so we spent five days of our vacation together. These friends, Julie and Shane, I've known since college and they are family. Anyway, Julie's mom, Kay, was also there. Kay is like a second mom to me and my daughters call her Grandma Kay. She is an amazing woman and truly an inspiration. Here is a woman who has taken life's lemons and made (a very sweet) lemonade.
Some five years ago, Kay's leg was amputated due to a severe blood clot. Two years later, her husband passed away. She now lives alone in her home, wheelchair bound. It would be very easy for Kay to remain holed-up in her home, crying about how the kids never visit her enough and watching life pass her by while watching TV. She has chosen something else. Kay travels like no one I know. This summer, she took her two daughters Julie and Vicki, on a road trip. They flew to Chicago, rented a car, and drove to Pennsylvania, New York, Washington, DC, Vermont and New Hampshire. When that trip was over, she followed Julie and her family on a trip to Seattle and then drove down the coast to their home in Long Beach, California. They made a stop somewhere in Oregon and she went river rafting. After being home for a week, she hopped on another plane and went to Florida. One day, we went to Disneyworld and Kay went with us, not missing out on a single ride. I couldn't believe her energy level-- it far surpassed mine even though I'm 47 and she's 72. She is home now but leaving for a conference in Salt Lake City in a few days. She will be doing the 12-hour drive herself.
We talked about her mindset on life. "I want to live," Kay said. "When Jim passed away, I decided that I wanted to spend whatever time I had left in this world doing things I love. I may be in a wheelchair but so what?"
Yes, so what? So life hands us lemons. What do we do about it? Suck them dry, tartness and all, lamenting at how awful they are. Or we sugar on them, add a little water, and enjoy!
I can't tell you how many cancer survivors I talk with who are in the throws of depression. Hey, it's common. Hearing you have a life-threatening illness is a real game-changer. It is terrifying, actually. When I was told I had cancer and then left my abusive husband just days later, I could easily have sat in an infusion room, cried my eyes out, and then gone home to... what? I have also talked to countless divorce survivors who also suffer from depression and PTSD. What to do about it? Let it beat you down or live with purpose?
Let me tell you, thriving your life is far better than drowning in pain and sorrow. In fact, overcoming life's challenges rocks. It's not always easy but it is possible. (Note that if you are struggling with clinical depression, please see a therapist.) Here's how:
1. Eat Well
Your brain needs good nutrition. Now is the time to cut out processed foods and sugar and give your body the nutrients it needs to thrive. Add foods high in Omega 3 fatty acids (like salmon), loads of fresh fruits and veggies, beans and nuts. Drink lots of water. Add lemons to give it flavor. I am also a huge fan of unsweetened Ice Tea, especially in heat. It's a far better alternative than sodas and energy drinks.
2. Get Proper Sleep
You must give your body time for proper rest. It is possible to get too much sleep, too. Each of us is different but about eight hours is good. If you are consistently getting more sleep than that, force yourself to get out of bed. Likewise, if you are consistently sleep deprived, it is nearly impossible to function properly. Get fresh linens in your room, diffuse a delicious scent, and consider taking a hot bath before getting in bed. It will relax and calm you.